Anonymous asked: Hi! So...I've been struggling with social anxiety, depression & ocd for years now...I dropped out of college, I abandoned my dreams (I'm a visual artist, writter & musician) & I have to pushed myself constantly to even get up the bed...One of my most dear friends that I haven't seen in years contacted me recently via Facebook & I'm dying to see him but I'm also scared to death. My social anxiety is controlling me now so I've been avoiding him...I don't know what to do. I feel so sad. Any advice?
Oh dearest, I am so sorry to hear all that. Fuck I can relate though, and I know scores more people who follow this blog would be able to place awful situations like this in their life. Social anxiety is hellish. There’s no two ways about it. To know what you should do, to be silently screaming at yourself to just do it, but just not being able to… The self hatred is enough to drive you crazy. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like we have choices, we are simply slaves to our anxiety, and it hurts like fucking hell. Darling, I wish there was an easy answer. I wish I could tell you my one foolproof way to ease and confidence, but it just doesn’t work like that. And the only one who can make things better is you. And yes, you can do it. You are beyond capable. You have to take it one step at a time, like any sort of recovery it is a day by day process. I would gently urge you to meet up with this friend. Sometimes the universe hands you opportunities to challenge yourself, and in my experience, the outcome is always positive when you step up and impress yourself. Its really all about you. You are the one who decides how this is gonna go down, so do whatever it is you have to to make it as easy as it can be, and you go out there and you have a fabulous time. I’m wishing you so much love, support, and good luck! ~~Anxiety Cat xx